“All’s Fair in Love and War” is an incredibly stimulating and brilliantly insightful testament to outstanding resilience and transformative self-discovery. It encourages readers to reflect profoundly on their own relationships and the vital importance of identifying unhealthy patterns before they become irreversible.
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This influential memoir displays the hidden struggles behind an evidently perfect marriage, proposing reflective insights into overcoming emotional disruption. Even if you feel stuck and find yourself running here and there, only to feel caged and constantly longing for validation in a toxic environment marked by narcissistic abuse, this book can be a great support.
I am always amazed at the divine intervention of The Spirit in my journey. The timing is always perfect. I can see the key turning points that forever changed my…
I’m listening to a psychologist break down the traits of covert narcissism. It isn’t flashy or dramatic, like the typical portrayals of narcissism I’ve seen in movies or TV shows.
While covert narcissists are shown as ‘bad,’ I feel confused because Jake is ‘good.’ I can describe him as “painfully loyal” to my friends. Jake is loyal to everyone around…
It has been a full week without any word from Jake. Not a text, not a call. I’m used to the silent treatment, and it’s been easier without him here.
I wonder if he’ll be mad that I wasn’t waiting for him at the airport. I wonder if he’ll be upset that I left the kids alone to come pick…
I am standing in the office supplies aisle, fingers hovering over a row of spiral notebooks. Today, this aisle feels like more than just shelves filled with stationery. It is…
May 30, 2023- Jake comes into the room, his usual routine in the morning. We usually “connect like husband and wife” in the morning, but today, he strokes my back…
June 3, 2023- The day has been calm, and for a second, I want to stay home and relax instead of going to our couples therapy meeting. The meeting is…
June 8, 2023- It’s 7 AM, and I need to get out of the house already. I get dressed quickly and lace up my tennis shoes to walk the dog.
Jake has been really helpful lately. Too helpful. He has fixed the gutters, trimmed the trees, gone to the lake, paddleboarding and swimming, and even bought a new stove and…
After a four-hour drive, we finally arrive in my sister’s city. The journey is long, but I am looking forward to this weekend for weeks. We check into the hotel…
August 2, 2023- My phone rings. Caller ID: Dad. I stare at the screen, hesitating. He never calls. When I call ‘his house,’ he does not speak; he just picks…
August 4, 2023- A text comes in late, just as I’m settling into the uneasy quiet of the evening. Jake. My stomach turns the moment I see his name. We…
August 7, 2023- I wake up early because I have to drop my kids off for their first day back at school. I make breakfast and lunch for the kids…
August 15, 2023- My family thinks that I am the problem “as usual.” They are in my business nonstop, picking apart my every move and word, like they are on…
August 25, 2023- Anxiety courses through my veins like fire, searing me from the inside out. My chest feels tight, my pulse erratic. Jake is everywhere: in my mind, soul…
September 5, 2023- It’s our annual Labor Day picnic today. The kids and I arrive and see Jake already seated with a group of mutual friends and acquaintances. Jake’s magnetic…
September 10, 2023- It is hard to describe just how heavy the burden of getting through one more day is. Even thinking about all the pretending, planning, and enduring that…
September 14, 2023, 2 P.M.- The courthouse looks like the ultimate challenge in a game I cannot complete. Adrenaline pumps through my veins—the fuel that I’ve survived on for…
The year and a half following the divorce was the hardest mental journey that I have ever been on. Internally, processing the years of abuse nearly crushed me. I screamed…
Looking back on my story, I can find things to be grateful for all along the way. I’m grateful for my small group of friends that believed me. I’m so…
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Charlotte Slayer loves to fish, hike, and go horseback riding. She loves raising her kids, sunbathing, playing piano, and singing karaoke. She is an amateur photographer who specializes in capturing her local Arizona moonrises and moonsets.
Here are some reviews from our precious readers that deeply reflect their viewpoints and feelings after reading our book:
I can really relate to the author because I have experienced a marriage where it felt like no matter how much effort I put in, it was never enough. I also connected deeply with the author when I read the line, “What am I doing wrong?” I often questioned myself in a similar way. I believe that everyone who is going through a toxic marriage should read this book.
The language, the theme, and the story are all so inspiring. I am shaken and very motivated by this book. I definitely recommend reading it.
The chronological order of events in the book captures a reader’s attention. The author goes on to discuss the details of their life, which is quite engaging. You feel as if you are literally in the moment, thinking, “Well, that’s what happened! Oh, I get it.” I think this is the best one I’ve read in a long time.
OMG, this book is like a wild rollercoaster ride! Charlotte’s story had me on the edge of my seat—her fairytale romance turned nightmare is so relatable! I mean, who hasn’t felt like they’re drowning in love? The drama is REAL!
Life is unpredictable, with events that are suddenly thrown at you, and you have to handle them with grace. In this book, Charlotte Slayer’s narrative serves as a mirror reflecting this unpredictability. Her journey illustrates how we often create illusions of happiness, only to confront harsh realities. The struggle for authenticity amid societal expectations resonates deeply with the human experiences throughout their existence.
Reading this story was like looking into my own life. The protagonist’s struggles with identity and love mirrored my own experiences, making me feel seen. This book touched my heart, reminding me that healing is possible, and I cherish it for that reason.
Yo, when the author said she wasn’t waiting for him at the airport. I felt that. This book helped me stop caterin’ to some dude’s every mood swing. Now I got boundaries—and peace. No more eggshell-walkin’. Thanks
Slayer’s memoir illuminated the insidious mechanics of covert narcissism. By documenting interactions in my own ‘green spiral notebook,’ I identified patterns I once rationalized as normal. I now live aligned with my values, not his moods. Totally recommend this book!
Omg I didn’t even KNOW what gaslighting was till I read this!! Thought I was just crazy for years. But like, turns out he was just super manipulative. Big nope. I’m out and vibing now.
It was like reading my soul on the page. When she described the ‘punishing silence,’ I wept. I’ve been mute in my own life too long. Now? I sing at karaoke night and live. Liberation never felt this divine.
Let’s just say, after page 137… things clicked. I changed the locks. Set the phone down. Walked away—finally. Sometimes the truth doesn’t scream; it whispers. You just need to listen.
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